Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Surrender - Time to Raise the White Flag

I haven’t gotten to share this blog as quickly as I had hoped between work, traveling home to North Carolina, and getting married. The wedding was fabulous and we played in the rain. Thanks for asking ;) now on to being a big girl in wifehood.

On a more serious note though, I have been praying about the topic in which I would share with you next. I feel that I have a lot of advice from lessons that I learned the hard way on my journey to recovery from my eating disorder. As I pondered and prayed about the order of topics that I would share with you, the Lord laid two things on my heart.

If you are struggling with an eating disorder, the two building blocks for starting your journey towards recovery lie in surrender and renewing your mind. I discussed these topics briefly a couple of weeks ago, so I hope that my story is still fresh in your mind.

As if coming out of denial of your eating disorder is not difficult enough, listening to someone telling you to surrender control is even more difficult. I know because I've done it. Eating disorders are all about having control in a chaotic world just for a moment, even if it is fleeting.  In the moments surrounding the night I cried out to God, I was desperate to be rescued from the life I was living. Like the weight of a ton of bricks, I quickly realized that God would not just allow me to escape my predicament, but I did know deep in my heart that He would walk with me through it.

In the months to follow, the Lord led me to read in the book of Isaiah 44:6-23, and that’s where today’s words of wisdom begins. Because this passage is a little longer, I’ll include some quoted scripture and some summarized scripture.

Isaiah 44:6 says, “…I am the first and I am the last. There is no God but me.” The scriptures continue through verse 8 to talk about how there is no God besides the LORD that knows the future or can establish His people. Then, in verse 9, Isaiah is speaking to the nation of Israel on behalf of the Lord, saying, “All who make idols are nothing, and what they treasure does not profit…” As I read this for the first time, I pictured in my head metal or gold cows or shrines carved out of wood. The further I read into the passage, the further I realized that the image in my head was not too far off, so I wondered why in the world I was reading this part of the Bible. You may be wondering why I am even writing to you about it, but just hang in there.

Verse 13 says, “The woodworker stretches out a measuring line, he outlines it with a stylus; he shapes it with chisels and outlines it with a compass. He makes it according to a human likeness, like a beautiful person, to dwell in a temple.” Later in the chapter, it talks about how this idol served the man, but the man was still unfulfilled and far away from the Lord.

After reading through to verse 20 or so, I began to feel conviction in my heart. Although I had not built physical idols for myself to store in my home or place in a temple, I was using my eating disorder to try to create something beautiful in myself, something that was worth honor or praise. I was doing everything I could to chisel away at my body, to rid myself of memories so that I could control my own thoughts. My eating disorder was my idol. Although I believed in Christ and had accepted Him into my life at a young age, I was living in a state of sin because I wanted to continue carrying my own burdens.

So hold on tight to your seat friends, because if you are struggling with an eating disorder, you too have succumbed to the sin of idolatry. I called you out. You’re welcome. It’s all on the table now. That’s just one sin we struggle with as a part of being human, Christian or non-Christian.

Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” That’s right, every single one of us. Thankfully, this scripture leads to others. Our sin leaves us without hope, but due to the grace of God, He sent His son Jesus to die on a cross. Redemption came for us when he rose from the dead after 3 days, for now he reigns and no evil shall conquer us. Jesus’ death is a payment that was made on behalf of the human race, but only for those who accept it, which does leave us with hope although it may seem daunting. In order to accept His grace, His mercy, His love, and His hope, we have to surrender ourselves to Him.

My favorite part of Isaiah 44 is in verse 22, which states, “I have swept away your sins like a cloud. I have scattered your offenses like the morning mist. Oh, return to me, for I have paid the price to set you free” (NLT, see other version below). This verse depicts the action that anchors our hope.


If you are tired of the fight on your own, you have the option to surrender. It’s a simple task, but not for the fragile in heart.


For the Christian and non-Christian alike, the first step is requesting forgiveness for living a life of idolatry. Forgiveness is not forgetting. The Lord knows where you have been. God’s forgiveness is the act of treating you with grace and mercy when you should be treated justly.




Next, ask the Lord for help. You cannot go through this journey successfully on your own. I tried it. I relapsed fairly quickly before I realized that I need the Lord’s leadership.




Finally, surrender to the Lord your entire life. Even if it seems frightening in the moment, trust that the Lord has your best interests in mind, for He has a future and a hope for you (Jer. 29:11). For those of you that are Christians, you can surrender by being willing to be obedient to the Lord and acknowledging the truths relayed in the Bible. For the non-Christian, you can pray to God, asking Him to send His Holy Spirit into you heart because you believe that Jesus died on a cross to pay your debt, a debt that began with Adam and Eve in the very beginning of creation.



If you are interested in surrender, but not quite willing to participate, that’s ok. I do want you to ponder what I said, comment below if you have questions, or read through the books of John or Romans to learn more about the life of Jesus Christ. We will touch base on renewing the mind in a later blog. J  

2 comments:

  1. Awesome Syd....you've brought tears to my eyes just reading this. Thank you so much for your blog, and for not only helping those with eating disorders but so many others as well. You are certainly one of God's cherished gems!

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  2. You have helped me so much. Thanks for sharing your blog. My illness Fibromyalgia has tried to take over my life with such deep misery of pain all over my body. And other ways too. Reading this has helped me. I have been trying to handle this illness on my own. I need to pray and talk with a God each day and hand it all over to him. Have faith God is with through all of it. You are such an inspiration to me Sydney. God bless you.

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